What is your ideal life? Do you have more than one?
As I write this, I’m living a fairly ideal life as it is. I’m in my living room, which is small and needs a good clean, with my two daughters who are quietly slurping up noodles while watching The Incredibles. I’m using my small laptop (which I love) to write a blog. It’s Sunday evening, and tomorrow starts a new week with a day full of housework and children. After that, I’ll have work for three days at a job I like, school assignments to make it through the last semester of my A.A. coursework, and then another day at home on Friday. After that it’s the weekend, and so the whole thing starts again.
Of course, we have our troubles. Like many young(ish) parents, we find our finances a bit strained. My husband is still in the early stages of setting up his own business, while also working part-time and going to school, so things get hectic at times. He also deals with Crohn’s disease, since being diagnosed two years ago. And neither of us really have the time we’d like to spend on things that are important to us.
Also, we can’t watch Sherlock on TV because our children always interrupt. We have to stream it around eleven PM the next day, so that we can be sure they’re sleeping.
Even then, we’re not always sure.
At any rate, I do find myself guiltily dreaming at times of a more ideal life. I’m not sure exactly what it would entail, but I have a small list that’s been building in my mind for the past few years.
Here are a few of its items:
1. A different house.
Our house is a great house. It’s a house, for one thing, which is lucky for us, and affordable. But it is older, in need of repair and remodeling in some areas, and most of all, dark. The whole backyard (which I once dreamed of turning into a garden oasis) is basically a shaded, grassless jungle full of spiders and other unpleasant creatures. We don’t have the time or money to turn it into anything else; keeping it mowed can be a challenge itself. So I find myself dreaming of a different house, one with a small kitchen and a large living room instead of the other way around; one surrounded by fewer trees; one that doesn’t use up so much electricity just to keep the temperature tolerable; and one with rooms that actually have some natural light in them.
2. A different yard.
I have a dream… a dream of an entire yard that is one huge Zen garden. Oh yes. Gravel as far as the eye can see, artistically punctuated by meandering paths and potted plants, maybe a little pond. Raised flowerbeds and vegetable beds. And in the backyard, just grass and sunlight and a few shrubs… and a dog… and a chicken coop.
3. Did I mention pets?
Yes! A dog, a cat, and some chickens, thank you very much.
4. Two stay-at-home parents.
No, I don’t mean jobless parents. I mean two parents who work from home: Dad as a videographer, and Mom as a writer. Those are our ideal careers, as unachievable as they might be (especially in Mom’s case…) As of now, I do love the job I have, and Dad is okay with his, but we’d love to find success in our ideal jobs, and if we did, we’d also have the joy of working from home! Unless Dad decided to open an office somewhere, I guess. Which would also be cool.
5. A bit of travel.
My sister would like to make a full-time-job out of travelling, and I don’t blame her! It’s so exciting. She’s already done a lot more of it than I have, and I’m five years older. I would also like to travel more, but maybe more for vacations than as a lifestyle! Although, come to think of it, maybe living abroad for a few years would be fun too.
There are so many awesome homeschooling options! I would love to homeschool my girls and have them join a homeschooling group, plus eventually a church youth group, for “social life.” I think that would be way cooler for them (and probably healthier) than the standard 8-hour-day at a traditional school. Especially while they’re young!
And I could go on and on, I suppose, listing ideal scenarios for my life. I’m sure you could, too! What is your ideal life? I’d love to hear about it… and I do reblog